Do you have a sneaking suspicion that you’re not assertive enough? There may be some truth to your fear. If so, we’ll get to the bottom of it and help you develop assertiveness skills. Answer “agree” or “disagree” to these 6 statements to find out if you’re not assertive enough and if becoming more assertive could help you advance your career. 你会暗自怀疑自己不够有主张强吗?你的担心也许是有道理的。我们来深入分析一下以帮助你培养主张。对下面的六个问题做出“同意”或“不同意”的回答,看看自己是否不够有主张力,是不是更有主张会推进你事业的发展。
1: I have a hard time disagreeing with people whose views I think are wrong.
对于认为持错误观点的人难以表示不认同
2: It is difficult for me to say no and I often end up taking on tasks that I don’t want.
对我来说,说“不”是一件困难的事。往往最终我挑起的是不想做的任务
3: Because I am nervous about appearing aggressive I may be too passive in my interactions.
因为我担心自己会表现出“好斗”,所以在交往中,我可能会过于被动
4: Delegating is not my strong suit, and I frequently do more than my share of the work.
委派不是我的“强项”,因此我常常分担更多的工作
5: It is tough for me to speak up and share my opinions, especially if they are somewhat controversial.
要我直抒胸臆很难,尤其遇到那些有争议的事
6: I know I need to promote myself more at work but I dislike marketing myself.
我知道我需要在工作中更多地推销自己,但是我不喜欢对自己“营销”
If you answered “agree” to three or more of these questions or if any of these topics hold you back from career success you are probably not assertive enough. Let’s examine these items and discuss specific steps you can take to improve each of them. 在以上问题中如果你的“同意”回答数在三个或三个以上,或者任何这些主题阻碍了你的事业成功,那么大概你就不够有主张。让我们来仔细看看,讨论一下在每个方面的具体改善步骤。