Everyone experiences unhappy times on occasion, but there is a big difference between experiencing a temporary bout of sadness and living a habitually unhappy life. That’s what chronically unhappy people do.
每个人都会时不时地觉得不开心,但是偶然觉得不开心和长期过着悲伤的日子是截然不同的。下面是长期不快乐的人经常做的事情。
Even if you are generally a happy person, take a look at these seven habits to determine if any of them are keeping you from experiencing greater amounts of joy.
即使你过着开心的日子,也请看一下下面的这七个习惯,你也许会发现,如果自己没有其中的某些习惯,可能会更开心!
1. Playing it too safe.
过于保守
Don’t play it so safe that you put yourself in situations where none of your potential options satisfy your calling. Dream your dream, but also realize that you are more than just the dreamer, you are the point of origin for your dream’s reality.
过于保守的话,你的潜能就无法满足你的心愿。要有梦想,但也要意识到你不仅仅是个梦想家,你还是梦想的现实起点。
Your dream is your creative vision for your future life. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar. Start smashing through those emotional barriers. Move forward. Life doesn’t magically give you what you want in your mind; it gives you what you insist upon with your actions.
你的梦想是你未来生活创造性的愿景。你必须走出当前的舒适区,习惯你所不熟悉的内容。打破这些情感障碍,往前走。生活不会奇迹般地给你想要的东西,它会给你你自己用行为坚持下来的东西。
2. Continuous self doubt.
一直自我怀疑
You will inevitably become who you believe yourself to be.
你不可避免地成为你想成为的人。
If you spend enough time saying, “I’m not smart enough, thin enough and rich enough,” it’s likely that you will someday be right. On the contrary, if you have the belief that you are smart enough, thin enough and rich enough now to take the next positive step forward, over time you will likely acquire the capacity to be these very things at your desired level of expectation.
如果你花了足够的时间说,“我不够聪明,不够瘦,不够富有,”很有可能有一天你会发现这是真的。相反,如果你相信自己够聪明,够瘦,够富有,可以继续向前迈出积极的一步,随着时间的推移,你很有可能获得为达到梦想所需要的能力。
3. Obsession with control.
迷恋控制
Sometimes people put too much interest into trying to control every tiny aspect of their lives. Learn to let go, relax and ride the path that life takes you. Try something new, take a chance, but above all, smile and enjoy the scenery.
有时人们过于喜欢控制生活中的细微方面。学着去放手,放松心情,去走前面的路。尝试一些新的事物,冒冒险,但是最重要的,是微笑并欣赏途中的美景。
Freeing yourself from trying to control the insignificant things lets you experience more of the good stuff around you. The greatest joys in life are often the unexpected surprises that arrive when you are flexible and open to life’s twists and turns.
不去纠结微不足道的小事,你会发现身边还有很多好东西。生活中最大的快乐,莫过于当你适应了生活中的曲折时那不期而遇的惊喜。