A person with high EQ doesn’t often criticize people.

一个情商高的人，不会总是去批评别人。

That’s because criticizing usually doesn’t solve any problem.

因为批评往往并不解决任何问题。

Everybody wants to solve problems. It’s just that many people don’t know how. And criticizing doesn’t change this.

每个人都希望能解决问题，只是很多人并不知道怎么做，而批评并不能解决这种现状。

Someone with high EQ knows this well. So they only make criticism when they can provide their solutions.

情商高的人知道这一点，所以他们只在能提出解决方案的时候才会给出批评。

And they don’t merely criticize. They will tell you how to make things better.

而且他们不会只批评，他们会说出怎样让现状变好。

A person who does nothing but criticizing is just trying to find himself a sense of superiority .

一个仅仅只知道批评的人，其实是在给自己找优越感。

Someone with high EQ also knows how to see things from other people’s perspectives.

情商高的人还懂得从别人的角度看问题。

It’s not only taking care of others’ feelings. It’s also a means of getting what you want.

这不单单只是照顾别人的感情，它也可以是一种达成目的的手段。

Nobody really cares about what you want. And that’s why merely asking for things usually won’t get you those things.

没有人真正在乎你想得到什么，所以单纯的索要通常不能让你得到你想要的东西。

If you want someone to help you, you should think about what his needs are and figure out how to make him think it’s good for him to help you.

想要获得别人的帮助，你就该想想对方的需求，然后想想怎样让他们觉得帮助你是一件有利可图的事情。

Someone with high EQ also knows how to listen to others.

一个情商高的人还懂得倾听别人的话。

This is not just about manners.

这不光是一种礼貌的表现。

It’s a kind of philosophy of living.

这也是一种处世哲学。

One person’s mind is inevitably limited in some way. Knowing how to listen to others can broaden your horizon.

一个人的想法是有局限性的，善于倾听他们的声音能让你的思维更广阔。

A person with high EQ knows this just so well.

而情商高的人深深地懂得这一点。