Focus on the Joy
It's the Holiday Season --- a new year is just around the corner! I'll bet you're already thinking about how you'd like next year to be a little different than the last, right?
But instead of thinking of performance, and efficiency, and control, I'd like you to take this opportunity to think about how many things in your daily life that you do "just for the joy of it"?
What I'm talking about here is value-based happiness (as opposed to temporary happiness).
Value-based happiness refers to the general feeling of well being that you experience when you are doing what you perceive to be meaningful ― when it's something that's important to you.
When you love what you do, you naturally become more efficient. When you do things for the joy of It, you'll rise above problems, and move easier through life.
Value based happiness is a by product from living a life Focused on the Joy. It is the by product of doing things not for what you get in return, not because you "should" or "have-to", but because you want to, because they are a part of your highest goals, and what you value.
Value based happiness comes from looking at things with your heart, not just your eyes.
You create value based happiness by Focusing on the Joy of life, instead of constantly looking for the next new thing that might make you feel better about yourself, about your life.
So how do you Focus on the Joy?
Throw out your ideas about control, effectiveness, and goals. (Yes, they are important, but let's just try something different, ok?) ( to be continued)
又到假期了――新的一年就要来临了!我相信你一定考虑了来年如何比今年多些变化,对否?
不过,你不要考虑什么业绩、效率以及管理,我建议你趁此机会想一想,在日常生活中有多少事情你是“为了快乐才去做”的呢?
我在这儿所谈的是基于价值的幸福(与暂时的幸福相反)。
基于价值的幸福是指,当你做自己认为有意义的事情时――在你看来很重要的事情――所体验到的普遍幸福感。
如果你喜欢自己做的事情,你自然会干得更有效率。如果你从所做的事情中得到快乐,你就会高于问题,使生活变得更加容易。
基于价值的幸福是为了快乐而生活的出乎意料的结果,是你做事情不图回报的结果。不是因为你“应该做”或者“必须做”,而是因为你想做,因为它们是你的最高目标的一部分,你珍惜它。
基于价值的幸福来自你看待事物的心灵,而不仅来自你的眼睛。
你通过注重生活的快乐而创造了基于价值的幸福,而不是总在寻找下一个能使自己或者你的生活感觉更好的目标。
那么,如何注重生活中的欢乐呢?
把你的有关管理、效率和目标等观念统统抛到一边。(它们的确重要,不过,让我们尝试一下别的,好吗?)(待续)